Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Birth

The Silence Broken

Building a new relationship is like having a new born baby. You must nurture the child; Give it attention; Give it love; Give it time. Your past experiences help you to be a better parent. You ignorances will cause minor ailments, but your tender love and care will nurse the child back to health.

For the past month Brooklyn and I have given birth to a child (named relationship) We are giving it all it needs to survive through life. We are positioning ourselves so that the child can grow into a strong and healthy one. One that can withstand trials and tribulations. These trials have come in the form of skepticism, disrespect, attempted infiltration, and past experiences. Our nuturing prepared us for these tribulations and have gotten us through them.

While I have been attending to my new relationship, other aspects of my life have changed i.e friends. Friends are important to me and I respect the friendsships that I have built. It seems though, that some people have become offended, hurt, or bothered that I have not spent enough or any time with them over the last couple of weeks. I do not apologize for my actions, especially when I communicated my thoughts on relationships prior to this new one. I specifically stated that I am a different person single than I am "married." It is funny that some of my friends (Hi Jay) remember that conversation and embrace that idea, where some scorn it and do not agree. Either way, my relationship (aside from school and GOD) , will continue to occupy my full attention. I will create a balance to include my friends, but I believe that if truly someone is a friend they will be a friend before and during a relationship. They will understand the time it takes to build a relationship and get over there personal feelings. They will embrace the happiness of their friend.


Happy Holidays to All from Tyson:

...And so it goes

12 comments:

ShawnQt said...

I appreciate your blog entry. I DO remember the conversation that Jay remembers, but I also remember the conversation Me, You and Omar had as well.

I understand the time it takes to build a relationship. I want your relationship to work.

Yet lack of communication, and lack of integrity (saying you will do one thing, and then you don't, with out any reason given) Is not something I know Tyson to be.

I am a little hurt, yes, because u have also given birth to not only my friendship but others as well. At one point we are all going to need each other... we give you space but don't cut us off. I don't apologize for my feelings because they are true.

Ty said...

I definitely understand that you are taking time to nurture your relationship with Brooklyn and will continue to be your friend no matter what. Just don't totally cut us off, or WE WILL FIND YOU!!! lol

fuzzy said...

I look at it like this... Omar, not to put you on blast, but when he was talkin to one of his ex's he almost split off completely from us. Thats including his pressance and communication as well. You told him it wasn't right and you communicated with myself and others that there needs to be a balance.

Fast forward to the present, you sank into the same hole that Omar was in that you wanted him to come out of.

I am 100% for you building your relationship and focusing on school. Remember you have friends also. Friends need attention, just as your man needs attention. Maybe not as much as you give your man, but attention none the less! Just as you texted everyone to tell us you posted, text all of us and say hello once in awhile! A text is fine for me, and I am sure would do for alot of others.

I wish you success in your relationship, but I want to advise you, if you take the relationship away, you are left with friends and family. Do not neglect those that got you where you are right now.

fuzzy said...

I love you man, Always Remember that!

Omar Ramon said...

1)Getting to know and building a foundation with a new person romantically does take a lot of time and energy.

2)Maintaining positive friendships does takes consistance.

3)ANY AND ALL relationships require that open and honest communication is present.

4) Sometimes it is easier to give advice/criticism than take it..but ducking from the truth when it is thrown at you never benefitted anyone.

%) I'm sure that all that has been said has been said in love and in an effrt to peace things up. Or at least I REALLY hope so. However, I feel that this public airing of feelings is a bit messy. I would hope that we could all communicate to one another as friends face to face or at least on private phone convo's. Maybe that's just me. In any event I would like all of my homies to know that I love you guy to death and that if you have any issue with me, you talk to me directly and personally...not to anyone else individually and NOT Blogopia.

Tyson I really wish you the best with BK. Know that, whther or not I agree with you or ya tactics, we are cool and that I respect you.


After all, you are my Fabulous Darling,RIGHT?! lol

*smooches*hugs*smiles*

WATER said...

"WHEN PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM" -MAYA ANGELOU


WHEN GOD STARTS BLESSING YOU...YOU GET TO SEE WHO YOUR "REAL" FRIENDS ARE...

INSTEAD OF PRESSING SADNESS/DOUBT...CELEBRATE THE JOY AND HAPPINESS FOR YOUR FRIEND

GOD HAS PLACED TWO BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE TOGETHER...AND IT'S ONLY GETTING STRONGER!


I LOVE YOU BABY!

RocaFella07 said...

Awwww I'm glad that you guys are doing so well.

;-)

Trackstar said...

hey i know i am kinda late with this but i do hope your relationshhip with derrick works wish ya'll happiness

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fuzzy said...

time to come back tyson, seriously!

Ailed LittleKnight said...

Are you going to come back from the dead ANYTIME soon? Damn... I been gone, but you have been fossilized. Come back to me!

DJ said...

Hey... Would love to find out why you have not come back sooner. You should come on the show and tell us what happen to you, why you left, what is taking so long to come back? Are you that wounded? Are you embarrassed? Who hurt who first? Will you be able to love again? Why was it so public? How have you changed since this last experience? Are you back with friends? This was messy, so how do you move on from this? These are just some of the questions that people want to know. Quench the thirst of curiosity that we all want to know what happen?